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<\/a>As people we have learned to tolerate A LOT!<\/strong> We put up with, get dragged down by other people\u2019s behaviours, situations, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, incompletions, frustrations, problems and even our own behaviour.<\/p>\nLorree and I did this exercise at the Master Mind and it immediately gave me the biggest A-Ha of my life.<\/strong><\/span> I didn\u2019t realize I was toleration so much BS from myself and others (that includes family, friends, clients). Once you are aware, everything changes because you can\u2019t go back to not knowing.<\/p>\nGrab a piece of paper and write down 1-50 on the left side of the paper and start writing down what, in your life and business, are you just putting up and accepting as \u2018it is just the way it is, or I am just the way I am\u2019.<\/p>\n
To get you started look at these areas of your life:<\/p>\n
Health:<\/strong>
Are you overweight? Out of shape? Eating badly? You are tolerating being overweight, not exercise and not eating properly.<\/strong> When you stop tolerating your poor healthy regime, you start to work on fixing it. If your weight and shape affect your self image,\u00a0 your self-image takes on a new shape and you feel better about yourself, have more energy, your wardrobe will change and you will peel away any negative feelings you may have about yourself.<\/p>\nMoney:<\/strong>
Your bank account is a true reflection on what you are tolerating in your business! It\u2019s the easiest way to see if you are picking up the phone and asking people to work with you<\/strong>, how many people you are helping, what your biggest fears are in your business.<\/p>\nRelationships:<\/strong>
Who in your life is judging you? Any negative Nellies? Anyone cross the boundary lines with you and you let them?<\/strong> It is not uncommon for the people who are closest to us to be our biggest critics (spouse, children, parents, siblings). What about the judgements you have toward yourself?<\/p>\nSo your tolerations may look like this:<\/p>\n
I tolerate:<\/strong>
My fears
My excuses
My lack of ownership
My bathroom that needs renovating
My income
My husband
My clients that don\u2019t pay on time
My messy house
My disorganized office
My story of lack
My weeds in the back yard
My need to be right
My need to be liked
My fatigue
My weight\u2026..<\/p>\nThe next step is to NOT make an excuse<\/strong> as to why your tolerating that thing, the next step is to ask yourself: \u2018what do I need to do to eliminate it?\u201d<\/strong> <\/span><\/em><\/p>\nSo for example: your bathroom that needs renovating. You say you don\u2019t have the money. You are tolerating not having money, so pick up the phone and get clients to pay for the bathroom. If fear of picking up the phone is a toleration, then look at your bank account, and stop tolerating a negative balance.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t be resistant to change because of what you tolerated in your past.<\/strong><\/p>\nSimply becoming aware and writing them down will bring them front and centre of your soul and you will naturally start eliminating, fixing, changing, growing and resolving these things you have tolerated.<\/p>\n
When you stop doing the things you don\u2019t want to do, you will be happier and more confident.<\/strong> You start to take the action<\/strong> that will get you to your dream.<\/strong><\/p>\nWho can put a price tag on that?<\/strong><\/p>\nAnd be sure to let me know your results<\/a>!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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<\/a>Q:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>I feel beyond stuck. I love my life but I also secretly hate parts of it. I hate that I struggle to get clients, that I fear no one will like me, that I will look stupid or dumb. I don\u2019t make enough sales calls because I talk myself out them (they don\u2019t want to hear from me anyway!). I hate that I have this big dream and I can\u2019t seem to figure out how to make it real. <\/em><\/p>\n